My husband and I were quite young when we got engaged. Our immediate family and friends were brilliant and supportive but general society had very interesting thoughts such as, ‘it’s all downhill from here’, ‘there’s no sex after marriage’, and ‘there’s plenty more fish in the sea’.”
And with dismal divorce statistics from Statistics New Zealand to back this up – approximately 9.4 divorces for every 1000 marriages as opposed to 10.9 marriages for every 1000 of the unmarried population above 16 – Aleisha came to the conclusion that “we don’t live in a society that is conducive towards marriage”.
This was all contrary to what Aleisha had experienced both in her upbringing and her own love life.
My husband and I were quite young when we got engaged. Our immediate family and friends were brilliant and supportive but general society had very interesting thoughts such as, ‘it’s all downhill from here’, ‘there’s no sex after marriage’, and ‘there’s plenty more fish in the sea’.”
And with dismal divorce statistics from Statistics New Zealand to back this up – approximately 9.4 divorces for every 1000 marriages as opposed to 10.9 marriages for every 1000 of the unmarried population above 16 – Aleisha came to the conclusion that “we don’t live in a society that is conducive towards marriage”.
This was all contrary to what Aleisha had experienced both in her upbringing and her own love life.
“I had this belief that love was easy and effortless. I met my husband while waitressing at the local Barracuda when it used to be on Bucklands Beach. He came in for dinner one night and I just knew I was going to marry the man at table three!”
In response to these two contrasting worlds, Aleisha came up with Love on the Kitchen Table: A Couple’s Guide to Creative Communications and Lasting Love, her first book launched in late August.
“I always knew I would write a book called ‘Love on the Kitchen Table’ even before I wrote the book!”
While the book appeals to people at different stages of their relationships, she is quick to point out it is not a one-size-fits-all solution.
“The book makes no claims to be able to fix relationships. So, if a couple is on the brink of divorce, this is not a solution. It’s written more as an education piece; to be used as a tool and resource for sharing. People can choose to do with the information as they please.”
The information can be enriching but it doesn’t mean all will be smooth-sailing after, says Aleisha.
And with the creative juices already flowing for her next book, Love on the Boardroom Desk, it seems this dynamic local author will be doing plenty of redirecting over the next few years!
Love on the Kitchen Table is available from Amazon and Barnes & Noble in paperback and digital versions.
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